Redirection:When children do things that they shouldn't, they should be stopped and told what is appropriate behavior. You want to "redirect" their bad behavior and show them and tell them what is proper behavior. An example would be if the children were running through the house, you would stop them and explain what could happen if they continue to run, then redirect them to a sit down game, or maybe even take them outside (weather permitting) to run off all that extra energy. If two children were arguing over the same toy, then you would step in and redirect one of the children to another toy similar to the one they were arguing over. Seperation:If the child is old enough to understand, have him rest or play apart from the others when they have been arguing, or fighting. Seperating the child gives them time to calm down and think about what they have been doing. This is NOT a time out! Have the child just sit on the couch or a chair in the same room as the other children. Just the fact that they cannot interact with the others for awhile will help them to think about what they have done. Once the child has calmed down, then they can rejoin the group. Behavior Management:If the children are old enough to understand and to talk out their problems, then talk with them calmly to learn what happened, why it happened and how they can deal with things to work it out themselves. Come to a solution that is agreeable to both you and the child(ren). This helps children learn to be responsible for their behavior. Be Part of the Solution:When children cause trouble or hurt, expect them to help make things better or right again. For example, if a child spilled their milk during lunch, have them help clean it up. If they break a toy, ask them to help and try to fix it. Include them in on the solution. If they make another child cry, have them help with the soothing. Explain to them what has happened and why and how they can help make things better. Let them know that there help is appreciated. Ignore:The best way to deal with misbehavior aimed at getting your attention is to simply ignore it if possible. Be sure that the child who is misbehaving isn't hurting anyone or himself. This type of attention of course cannot be ignored. But if the child is just throwing a temper tantrum or being argumenative, then go on about your day and let him get his frustrations out. Once the child has calmed down and realized that this sort of behavior will not get him the attention he wants, he will start to interact better with the group. Most children that act out may not be receiving enough attention from adults. So they do whatever they can to get any attention they can, whether it is negative or positive attention. Be sure to give the child lots of attention and praise when they show positive behavior.